Wednesday, February 29, 2012

{Guest Post} Making Memories -how & why its important

I'm going to introduce you today to a very special friend who has went through more in life than most at the age of 24... Ashley Sullenger  
Ashley, me, Jess in 2009

She blogs over here and shares her amazing strength and attitude through their journey in what life has thrown at them. If you haven't already heard of them I really do recommend you going through and reading some of her inspiring post! She gives such good insight so I asked her to share a little bit on why creating memories is so important... 

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Memories. We all have them, and are constantly making new ones. We tend to focus on the positive ones, and push the negative ones aside. Whether our memories are good or bad, what if suddenly we weren't able to make new ones? What if all we had left were the memories we once took for granted?

July 2010, Preslee, my 18 month daughter, fell into a canal while my husband and I were on a date. She was air lifted to Primary Children's Medical Center in SLC, UT where she fought for her life. I would have never dreamed the last memory I would have with my child would be holding her in my arms while she took her last breath.

Primary Children's Medical Center July 2010

Suddenly I found myself childless, grasping on to the only thing I had left, which were memories.

Now, 19 months later, many of those memories are beginning to fade.

I am so incredibly grateful for everything I did to document Preslee's life. Last year we were blessed with another child, a little boy, we named Ledger. Even if I never lose my son, I realize there will come a day that I will miss my daily routine of being a mom. I now try to preserve any memory I can with Ledger and my husband. Here are a few things that I've come to understand.
Family pictures with Ledger 2011

Write
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I love writing, I probably write more than the average person, but I now record a lot more. My blog is incredibly important to me and I love that I can look back and read about Preslee's precious life. I also have a private blog, where I record the more personal things dealing with our family and all of Ledger's milestones. (I'm pretty sure not everyone cares about them as much as his proud mama does) I combine both blogs to create a book using Blurb, which I absolutely love.

One thing I've learned is to work on it more than once a year, if not, it can become extremely overwhelming to put together. Whether it's writing on a blog or in a journal, I understand the importance of documenting our experiences.

Photograph.
I've learned to save all the pictures I take, even the ones that don't seem "blog worthy." My favorite pictures I have of my daughter are the candid ones that depict who she really was. Always save the original, even after you edit it.

This site gives some great tips on organizing and backing up your photos.

Videotape.
When talking to a friend who lost her husband, she suggested to switch off who stands behind the video camera. She explained the same person usually tends to videotape, so they rarely appear in the videos. When I went back and watched ours, I realized that I'm in very few. I now hand the camera over to my husband more often.


Gratitude.
This may sound strange, but for me, gratitude and memories are strongly tied together. My strongest memories throughout the years, are when I was the most content and happy with where I was in life.

It's easy to constantly focus on the future, especially when raising children. But, after losing Preslee, I've come to understand every single day is a gift, and I have no idea how many days I have left with the people I love. I now focus on the present, hoping to always make the most of it.

February 2010
I now encourage you to do the same. Get out your camera more often, make time to write, and be grateful for what you have been given. Cherish the moments you get to spend with family and friends, and appreciate the experiences you share with them.

Because I now understand, very few things last forever.

15 comments:

  1. Wow Ashley that was amazing!!! Thank u sooo much for the reminder to "slow down". I luv u much !

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  2. Love this post! -Really! :)

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  3. This was exactly what I needed to read tonight! Thank you! 

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  4. LOVED the post Ash..good job!!! Hope yall are doing good...Ledger is so stinkin cute!

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  5. I'm balling my eyes out! Thank you for sharing! What a great post.

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  6. I somehow stumbled upon this post and could not stop reading.....I 'm balling my eyes out as well- and not understanding sometimes why some things happen the way they do! I love the strength of that family and there strength in God. As a mom of two boys I can't even imagine ever going through something like that! Thank you for sharing..I will be continuing to pray for the family as I'm sure it's still extremely hard! 

    XO God Bless
    Tiffany
    www.littlemamanista.blogspot.com

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  7. This is beautiful. Truly beautiful. I'm off to hold my little ones a little tighter. Thank you for sharing this. XOXO, Shelley

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  8. You have gathered such a beautiful memories in your life I must say...to me you are the blessed one really of having great memories around your corner...SO beautiful!!

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  12. LOVED the post Ash..good job!!! Hope yall are doing good...Ledger is so stinkin cute!



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  13. Wow Ashley that was amazing!!! Thank u sooo much for the reminder to "slow down". I luv u much !

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