Wednesday, July 16, 2014

the good, the bad, the ugly

Am I designating my time to the things that matter most?
http://www.lds.org/ensign/1971/12/the-things-that-matter-most

It's ultimately up to me to raise our little ones to the best of my ability.
I am lucky enough to be a stay at home mom and I don't ever want to take that for granted.

The past year (2013) I focused a lot on my blog, it grew and I loved it.
I loved creating what it has become.
It took a lot of my time and a lot of hard work and it will always be a passion of mine.
This past December I started feeling overwhelmed. It became beyond apparent that I was always trying to keep up. Keeping up with being a mom and wife, keeping up with an unclean house, keeping up with posting & emails, keeping up with creating fresh content for the blog,
keeping up with other bloggers.. and it all just kinda became exhausting.
I want to be me, I want to be good enough just the way I am. I want to run the way I want to.
I wanted to be content and not feel like I had to keep pumping out fresh content to keep readership or grow new readership (like so many articles I read said you need to do).
So many things I read says be consistent, your readers need to know what to expect from you..

As I look back I see down falls. I saw my patience run thinner with Lexi through times I was working on projects and I see times I missed out on simply hanging out with my family when I was busy working on some post.

My goals of posting 4-5x a week was a lot of work. Was it always worth the time? I'd like to say it was but I'm sure a portion of my time spent could have been used in better ways. I could have been the one entertaining my little girl instead of letting the t.v. do it and I often found myself wondering how on earth all of these other bloggers survive life and a full time dedication to this "job"/social pleasure.

Don't get me wrong. My blog has been life changing for me, its been my creative outlet and I LOVE doing it! But, I think it's been time for good balance. Each one of us bloggers have a specific purpose on "why we really blog" but I think so many times bloggers (me included) are getting caught up in this "social pleasure".

There has to be a fine line and it's something I have thought long and hard about over the past couple of months and I'm trying to achieve it. I have had this public blog for almost 4 years now. I have definitely had my fair share of times when I thought why in the heck am I putting so much time into this thing. I'm always routed back to because it makes me happy, if I had to pick a job in life...  this would be it, there is no other place I could release this type of creative outlet that my brain needs to release. But does it steadily bring in the income of a real full time job.. no. So I need to stop treating it like it's a full time job. I am trying to find a good balance for me and for my family which is why you don't see me pumping out 4-5 post a week anymore.

At the end of the day, I have decided to pick what is really important.
I still love sharing our life, our projects, and other fun stuff..
But, I guess what I am trying to say is.. 
I hope you will still follow along.. even at our new blog pace.
because the support of my readers means the world to me!
thanks again for hanging out with me in this space for as long as you have!!


dress: marshalls | sandals: gap (now at outlet)

10 comments:

  1. What a great realization to come to. It's so valuable to continually evaluate priorities as we go. I'll be following along regardless of pace. I really appreciate you and how you celebrate being a mom. <3

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  2. Amen! It really is a struggle at times isn't it? Thanks for the sweet reminder.

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  3. Way to go Linds! I still try to "blog" about Michaela and the new things she does each week and I have done one post! haha!!! hoping my memory will last a while longer until I can get around to it! You know I'll always follow, guess it comes with the friendship :)

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  4. Enjoyed reading this post! My blog has been mostly for family and friends so far, but I have recently decided I'd like to pursue making it more public... But it's kinda scary and I really relate to the worry of getting caught up in it instead of spending time on what matters most. It's great you are focusing on what's right for you, even if that's a slower blogging pace. I love seeing your photos whenever you do post and will continue to follow along :) I've been reading since my first pregnancy and now, like you, I have another little girl on the way!

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  5. Well said! I started a blog in February and already find myself obsessing over it more than I should. I try my hardest to only work on it while my daughter is napping but it's hard. I've followed your blog for the last two plus years and love reading it! Keep up the great work and don't feel guilty about posting less often. At the end of the day all that really matters is family!

    XO Kelly
    www.dettecakes.com

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  6. Great post at such a great time for me, Lindsey! When I first started my blog at the beginning of the year, I found myself obsessing about it because I had so many ideas it was a little overwhelming. I realized that there is no reason to obsess and I need to start being more in the present with my girls. It's so refreshing to hear somebody's perspective like yours who has been blogging for a much longer time. Thanks for the honesty and I will always follow regardless of how many posts you do :)

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  7. This post just makes me want to follow your blog even more. I am at the beginning stages of trying to start one of my own, and already can't find the time to get it going. I couldn't agree more with all the words you shared. Your sweet family should never take a back seat to anything. Don't you worry about us readers....you post when you can....and like best friends we will always be here. -Julie-

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  8. Wonderful post! I have been following your blog for at least six months and sometimes I myself get too busy to catch up on some of the blogs I like to follow. I think your "new" pace will still work with a lot of us followers. And I think most importantly it is inspirational that you have decided to find balance...many of us continue to work towards that. - Stacy the Canadian :)

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  9. I can totally understand where you're coming from and I will DEFINITELY keep following along :) No one excepts anything from you, it's YOUR blog and with that it becomes YOUR decision when and how you post. Spend the precious time with your family and I'm sure many will follow along and read your future posts :) xx

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  10. It sounds like your priorities are exactly where they need to be :)

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